Divorce is never any family’s first option. It can bring so much stress and pain to both the parents and any children involved. And in the worst cases, it can even cause trauma that sticks with the children for the rest of their lives. But all of this can be prevented. With lots of mindfulness, intention, and care, coparenting is possible. And while coparenting can never completely remove the strain of divorce, it can greatly reduce the harm and lasting effects.
Coparenting is best done with the guidance of a professional. While many couples are hesitant to seek outside support, it’s often the best option for a smooth coparenting relationship. Enlisting the help of a family therapist is a wonderful investment for the wellbeing of your children and the wholeness of your family.
It’s important to note that coparenting relationship will work without the willingness of both parties. Both parents must consciously decide to coparent and to make all decisions based on their children’s best interests. This often means putting aside personal feelings and any resentment for the ex-partner. Remember that coparenting is about your child’s needs, not your own. Coparenting requires maturity, honesty, and cooperation in order to be successful.